Provides an inner drive that, once you tap into it, can give your life immense fulfillment. It’ll. Also give you certainty, because you know right now: we’re in a world that’s, changing so rapidly that virtually every time you turn around you hear about something else: that’s changing and I personally get to deal With hundreds of thousands of people per year, I see about 250 to 300 thousand people a year in my live programs, and I hear so much excitement and also hears so much fear about the pace of change.
I mean we & # 39. Ve all talked about changes happening so rapidly now in paradigm shifts. All that stuff has become so overused at this point that we become numb to it, but it’s, true, never in the history of the world of things change so rapidly.
So you need to find something that’s, eternal inside of yourself, that no matter what changes on the surface, this part of you does not change it’s, the part you come back to the part that guides you the part that Really makes you fulfilled and that’s.
Your purpose, because, all of a sudden, when you find out a friend’s, got cancer or you turn around, and you see that 35,000 people IBM got laid off or an entire industry disappeared overnight, because a new one was created.
It’ll. Give you a way to find some good in virtually anything. Your purpose is available to you at any moment in your life, but you got to know what it is before we get into it. Let me back up a little bit here.
Okay, I have a good friend is one of the most successful financial people in the country. He works in all these financial markets. He’s incredibly successful businessman, and I know he’s working very hard right now on a goal.
I went to visit him recently and boy. He’s working hard. He’s gonna achieve that goal, but you know when the goal is. Finally there, then he’s. Gon na be happy. I thought no! No! No! No, you know each moment we & # 39.
Ve got to be able to find some sense of meaning for our life, something that is significant. Something is useful and we all know this is not a new conversation, but as your coach and as your friend in these tapes, I’d, like to draw your attention to some things that, maybe you already know but haven’t thought About for a while, maybe get you to put some of your focus into the most important area, life which is enhancing meaning see.
All of us in life have to have a reason to be here. If all you’re doing out, there is going out and trying to achieve goals, and then you achieve them. Then I’m sure you’ve run into that trip up wire that says.
Okay, I’ve achieved the goal. Now. What right we achieve? The goal in your brain says is this all there is see the purpose of a goal as I’ve shared because so many times is not to achieve the goal. The purpose of the goal is what it makes of us as people who we become ultimately with all.
We have to have a sense that who we even have become has some kind of meaning. Without that there’s, not a reason to live there’s, not a reason to get up there’s, not a reason to go out there and make it happen.
What’s? Really controlling this man’s. Life is fear when people say they’re cynical or they’re pessimistic. What they’re really screaming out to you is I’m scared. Out of my mind, I’m afraid to dream.
Again, I’m afraid to think about what’s possible. I’m afraid to really put myself on the line, and so I’m gonna go for something I’m gonna stand for something I want to put myself in line in a relationship or my business or My vision to make a difference in the world because you know what maybe at one time this person did that maybe they tried it several times and it didn’t work and they got pain and pain and pain.
Pretty soon they didn’t want the pain, so they stopped dreaming. He stopped and visioning he stopped coming up with meaning. Instead, they trying to keep himself away from the pain by saying. Well, there’s, no meaning at all anyway, but unfortunately that gives you the ultimate pain, because it gives you a life without meaning and no one can live a life that’s fulfilled without a sense of meaning, see we’ve been put here for a reason.
The question is why, and the answer I think, is different for every one of us is different for me than it is for you, and yet it’s. The same every one of us has been put here: every one of us is unique and different and special, and I believe our Creator, if I use the word God if I’m – a God – has put you here for a reason, questions.
What is it, God does not create things without a purpose. Everything on earth serves the purpose. Why are you here? What are you here to do? What are you here to become to create and to give these are some of the most significant questions that you can answer in your life and even when you answer them, I’m sure that, as your life expands, you’ll, come Up with better answers, as you get more experience and you get closer in touch with your own innermost being and maybe a closer in touch with your Creator as well, he says Tony, where you going with this, I’m really going to the essence Of giving your life what you deserve, which is knowing that there are no mistakes, knowing that every little thing you do has a consequence, it can be a positive consequences if you choose it.
The most powerful thing that has consequence in your life, though, is the thing we talk about so often, but I got ta say it again, and that is what’s really, ultimately shaping our lives. Our decisions.
The first decision is a decision about what to focus on where your focus goes going to determine how you think how you feel what you do. Ultimately, what your life turns out like what you’re, able to contribute the bottom line is we must find an empowering focus out of any situation.
The second decision that shapes our life and the meaning of our lives of the decisions that we make about what something means, meaning as ultimately something we determined that’s, the exciting part about it, and that’s.
The scary part about it. The third decision, of course, is what are you going to do when something happens see so much of the fear that we see in life comes from the fact that most of us, don’t feel like we’re in control.
We’re running around trying to control all the events of our lives and every single one of us is going to experience multiple situations in our life, but no matter how skillful we are well. We cannot control the event.
Well, it’s, just not something that we can control because we didn’t initiate it anytime, you’re dealing with other people. This is going to happen anytime. You’re dealing with mother nature. This is going to happen.
Most of us in life are so afraid, something’s, going to happen that we can’t control. Therefore, we’re, going to get pain that we try to avoid those things we can’t control. We try to shape our lives where we spend our time who we spend our time with what we do by environments that we feel really comfortable in when we feel like we’re really in control in them.
But what that does? Is it limits? The shape and quality of our lives we’ve, got to be willing to put ourselves out there to discover what we’re, really capable of them or put environments. When we don’t know what to do.
We don’t know what things mean when we’re, not sure it’s in those environments that we grow the most it’s in those environments. We discover more of our true purpose as human beings. It’s there that our character is shaped.
You know so many times we set goals or we have dreams or we have plans and we work our tail off and it doesn’t come out the way we want and a lot of people come out of those situations, disillusioned or angry or Resentful or frustrated they look for someone to blame, but you know sometimes.
I really truly believe that not getting your goal as part of the design part of the game plan causing you to dig inside and discover more of yourself to really begin to use your real capacity as human being those traits that are within you that only expand When they’re challenged when demands are made upon them, you know.
I truly believe that God is not so much interested in our convenience as he is in our character. You know, and I also believe that, because something hasn’t happened right away when you wanted it and design didn’t work out.
Doesn’t mean it’s, not going to happen. It’s, really a test of how committed are you it’s, really a test designed to make you become more gods. Delays are not God’s, denials, unless you give up. Of course, if you don’t, do your part, then, of course whatever you’ve envisioned will never come to be, but we have to be willing to continue to put ourselves forth and know that events will show up that we can’t control.
So let me ask you a question. You go okay, I understand all this Tony, but how do you ever have a sense of certainty in a world that’s, changing all the time? Well, you set goals. You do all the right things and it still doesn’t, always turn out right.
How do you live in a world where, suddenly something can happen? It can take away your whole business or you know, storm could come and take away your home or or some calamity could happen to your personal family or a disease could hit or or someone could die.
How do you deal with all that and the answer is you have to know the one thing you can control is not events where you control is what things mean to you, and therein comes the secret to life, because, no matter what happens in your life, the Meaning of what has happened is yours.
You get to determine it as long as you’re conscious and you don’t, allow the people around you to teach you what to think and as long as you don’t. Just go on automatic pilot and allow your nervous system to make up connections that are false.
Let me give an example of what happens to people, certainly by now you realize that what you do is human being is primarily driven by your need to avoid pain. Your desire for pleasure right but see all of us have learned through life that certain things mean more pain than others, and so some people are driven by their fear right to experience.
The emotion of fear is the most incredible painful thing they could ever imagine, so they’ll do anything to avoid being in a fearful situation. I people are driven by their desire to feel the sense of adventure.
Obviously they make decisions differently. They focus on different things in life. They can walk in the same room as someone who lives in fear and they’re gonna notice. Different things they’re gonna want to sit in a different place.
They’re gonna want to try a different kind of vacation than someone is trying to focus on how to be secure. What drives you are you driven by guilt? Are you driven by your past when we were to use the word driven? The word Drive: it really means to guide to control or to direct something.
So what’s, guiding you? What’s? Controlling you? What’s directing your behavior? What’s, directing your focus? What’s directing the meaning you’re pulling from your life? What is it? Is it your parents? Is it the competition you have with somebody else? Is it wanted to prove somebody wrong? Is it your desire to contribute? Is it your desire for joy or happiness, or is it a sense of purpose that’s driving you a sense there’s, something out there for you to do there’s, something you’re designed to Evolve into to become to share to give to create you don’t, even know what it is, but you’re willing to trust that, each day more of its going to come out, see whatever drives you that’s.
What’s, shaping your life and the challenges that most of us never consciously decide? What we’re going to have drive our life, see we’re, not stimulus-response animals, but we can be stimulus-response animals.
Our nervous systems are designed to help us. They’re, designed to be a source of decision-making. The designed to help us very quickly when we have an experience, figure out what is the source of that pain, so we can avoid it in the future.
What is that source of that pleasure? So we can have more of it in the future, but when we don’t think things through we don’t, think things through in an empowering way. We don’t have faith that there’s, a higher meaning.
We tend to settle like animals for the lowest, meaning that we can find well. This is happening because I’m, a bad person. This is happening because there’s, something wrong with me. This is happening because I’m, just destined to fail, or worse, very often in life.
We don’t even consciously think things through our nervous system just makes quick decisions. Hey every moment you’re alive, whatever you have a significant amount of pain. Your brain says: hey: what is the source of this pain and it uses three criteria.
I’m sure you remember to determine what the source of your pain is. It looks for something that is happening about the same time. You’re. Having the pain that is unique because, after all, you weren’t feeling pain a moment ago, you got pain.
Now what you about this situation? It looks for something that is recent. Something’s happening about the same time. You have the pain, and it also looks for something that is consistent, something that, whenever you have had pain in the past, this has also been a factor in that situation.
Let me tell you how these three criteria can help you you go out one day when you’re a child and you touch a hot stove. You feel some pain, you pull it back. Your brain says: okay, what was unique to that moment that gave me the pain it looks around and says.
Ah this burner right and says what was happening about the same time. I felt the pain I was touching this burner and what’s consistent about it? Well, maybe nothing so you do it again. After doing it two or three times or maybe one time does it hurt enough? Maybe one time is consistent.
It’s like when somebody says to you always do that you I don & # 39. T, always do that. Yes, you do you always do it. I’ve done it one time you habit well that’s, always what human beings can make one time consistent if it’s painful enough, so the bottom line is: what do you learn? Your nervous system learns you don’t grab burners right, you just don’t.
Do that, and so in the future, when you’re, trying to make a decision about what to focus on what things mean, what to do and you’re, going buy a burner. One of the options is not to go grab that baby just for fun.
So as basic as this lesson is, we feel to realize that this simple system that assists us so much in making decisions, because it helps us discover what is the source of our pain or our pleasure. So we can avoid the pain gain.
The pleasure in the future, this simple system can be misguided or misinterpret information. See here’s, how it works. I’ll. Give you an example. I was doing a date with destiny. Only a couple weekends ago and um, several people were having major challenges in their life and one lady, just couldn’t, get herself to really have any meaning in her life and, as I kept digging digging digging the real problem that she had as She felt lonely because she felt disconnected because she wanted to have someone she could share her life with, but she couldn’t get herself to do that.
Why would you guess someone couldn’t get themself to be able to share their life, not hard to figure out? Is it pain person? Obviously, as I guessed had a painful relationship in the past which she had, it was so painful that she blinked up in her head that marriage, because she’d had a previous one that was painful, equals death.
I’m gonna kind of keep you away from getting to closer relationship right. How did her brain do that? Well, she said she was in this relationship, but was so great, but after they got married, this man became physically abusive verbally abusive.
He basically did everything he could to control every aspect of her life and the worst thing of all when she finally got up developed the courage to divorce this man, he threatened all in her life, but he also threatened their own son’s.
Life. Now, when that happened, she got linked up. Marriage equals death to not only me but potential loss of the life of my child. That’s even more than the loss of her own life for her. Well, it’s, not too hard to figure out that if your brain says, why am I feeling his ultimate pain? It looks for something unique and says: well because I’m married and then it looks around and says what was happening about the same time, I felt the pain, marriage and you say what was consistent during the pain.
You go marriage pretty soon. You’re gonna void marriage, but it doesn’t. Stop there. Her brain, also linked up that the cause of her pain was something else. Two men was, after all, what was unique. I had this man around.
I was married to a man right and, secondly, what else was going on well, about the same time, I was feeling the pain I was with this man and sure enough. What was recent, this man right all the time I’d, the pain he was there every time so sure enough.
All of a sudden she’s, avoiding all men, but it didn’t stop there. She also linked up that the reason she felt this pain was because she trusted so as a result, her brain linked up. Unconsciously, if you trust, then you will die now.
I would say to you: the opposite is true. If you don’t trust, if you don’t have faith, then you instantly die internally. You may not die physically, but you die emotionally because anything that’s worth living in life requires faith.
It requires trusting. It requires. Knowing that you can get out of the chair and walk on this floor, and when you step out on the floor, you don’t stop and have to analyze. Can I do this and you don’t, weigh everything and think about your weight and the structure of the floor and what’s underneath that you just trust? Otherwise, you’d, be immobilized.
You have to trust the drive. A car you have to have faith to enter a relationship. You have faith to start a business. You have to faith when all of a sudden somebody, this company, says these 35,000 people are gone into faith, that if you’re one of those 35,000, that there is a better plan for you and that you will now act on that faith and Take action and find that better plan that better solution for your life, you must have that you lose trust, you lose meaning when you lose meaning you lose your life again, maybe not physically, but certainly a mo like and when you lose it emotionally.
The physical loss of life often is not that far behind medical researchers are now proving the mind-body connection is not some psycho babble but a physical reality that the way we think in the way we feel about our lives affects us physically.
In fact, dr. Chopra recently shared with me that there is a new study that was done in the state of Massachusetts where they began to study what causes someone to die of their first heart attack before the age of 50, where they never get another chance.
I was what was the number one risk factor they wanted to know and they assumed that what would cause someone to die from just a very first heart attack. Never gonna the chance would be a person just had so much cholesterol in their body.
The body wasn’t able to recover. They found out. That was not the number one risk factor and they thought well maybe that diabetes, maybe it was more of a genetic factor. They once again disproved that theory with the Department of Health, Education and Welfare for the state of Massachusetts states in their article clearly is the most important risk factor determinant.
You will die of your first heart attack and not get a second chance is what they call job dissatisfaction. You got to have a deeper meaning for your life and oh, I’m on that grindstone again or I’m on that treadmill.
No wonder most people, life turn to alcohol or drugs or television, and even then they can’t find something to entertain themselves. Even then they don’t sense. Any fulfillment, because distraction does not create a life of significance.
Distraction does not create joy. Distraction will not give you what you’re seeking drugs will not change your life for the better right. What they’ll do is hurt you. They don’t, create pain and there are all kinds of drugs anything that doesn’t, expand you as human being or allow you to share more love and joy with others in a natural way that enhances your physiology and your mind.
Your emotions and your spirit is something you probably don’t need you got to grow, you got expand, you got to contribute. You got to know that you’re here for a purpose. There are no mistakes, there is a meaning, even if you haven’t found it yet you must discover it, and you know what, for most people, they don’t discover the meaning of their life until their life is over.
What a sad place to be, or until they have a life-threatening illness or until somebody very close to them, that they love is about to leave them you don’t have to wait for the pain to discover the meaning.
So why no one? I found the purpose of my life. You decide what it is, you discover it and you decide this. Is it maybe later on I’ll refine it I probably will, but for right now. This is why I’m playing the game of life.
This is what it’s about everyday. If I’m just being this way, if I’m, just doing these kinds of simple things with other people with myself, then I know I’m on track. I know there’s. A reason for my existence, we all have that.
I know you know a story of Victor Franco right. The manner up. Man’s, search for meaning here’s, a man who’s in a Nazi concentration camp with pain everywhere around him. Knowing any moment he could be gassed or maybe spared, and if you’re spared.
He’d, have the unique privilege of going out and taking the dead bodies out of those gas chambers putting them in the big ovens talk about intense and yet somehow, in the midst of that pain, he found a deeper meaning.
The meaning was that, even though he was in pain in the moment somehow someday, he would survive this and he would come to share the story so that this would never happen to other people in the future.
He couldn’t find a meaning in the moment he found a meaning in the future and for most of us, the meaning that we want for our lives is here today and it’s. Preparing us for an even greater meaning in the future.
If we’ll just use all of our life’s experience the pain and the pleasure to become more to prepare ourselves for whatever it is that our Creator has brought us here. For to prepare ourselves so that, at the moment of truth, when we are needed, we will deliver, and my real belief is: we’re, going to be delivering all along the way it isn’t something that someday you’Re going to do it’s, something you everyday are doing.
You know my former spouse Becky just recently lost her father and it’s been a tough time for her because in a very short period of time here she’s lost both her mom and her dad, and that’S an event: you cannot control, and God knows we tried.
You know three years ago when they told us that father had cancer. They told us that he would die within a period of anywhere from three to six months and we just did not allow them to tell him that, for the obvious reasons, you know how odd I believe from all the people we’ve learned from From everyone from dr.
Bernie Siegel to Norman Cousins, to dr. Deepak Chopra, we understand the mind body can. If someone decides that, because they have some dis-ease in their body, what it means is they’re going to die, then of course they will, and fortunately he never found out that diagnosis and what we did is we kept making sure he had a Compelling future he had a sense of meaning a variety of things that he was needed, for it was amazing how he physically responded.
We had trips scheduled for him to go to Fiji on which he went on and talking about how we needed his help with our resort there and helping some of the fugiens in the garden, because the garden for him created so much meaning in his life.
About supporting about nurturing about helping life along a little bit, and so that he was excited about things we wanted to do with his grandkids, and so we kept giving him compelling futures and sure enough.
Three months went by, he was healthy. Six months went by, he was healthy. A year went by and through a variety of interventions. Pretty soon he seemed to be better until just recently when we started getting phone calls from his neighbors.
He lived up in a place called Ram Colorado, a little town with 14 people in it, and he’s been a major part of for years and years, and they started call us to tell us that they didn’t think he Could take care of himself anymore so with flow out and brought him back here and the first few days he was in phenomenal shape.
It was like he was completely restored, being around the grandkids and and being in the environment. He was all excited to share about things that happen in his little town of ran that he helped to create there about all about the calves that he helped to deliver and about the planting season and how they helped people through the winter and some of the Stories they’ve been telling and he was just totally alive and and we took him the doctors for a series of tests, they said they wanted to keep him overnight.
Next day we called – and I spoke to his main doctor, and he said it looks like he just has a form of meningitis. So he said that & # 39, ll, be really easily treatable and he should be okay and he said so.
Don’t worry. He said we’re. Just gonna do a series more tests because he’s a bit dehydrated. He lives at an altitude of about 11,500 feet and he’s, not drinking enough water, and he said so. You know we’re gonna run a couple more tests.
He said next day he said, but I think he’ll be fine. He said I have to go out of town, he said my you know. Partner doctor will be working with him. So said I passed on all the information you can check in with him tomorrow.
Well, the next day Becky went to go, see your dad, and I was out doing a seminar and I got a phone call on. The phone call was that they & # 39, ve done additional tests and they found out that the cancer had spread throughout his spine and into his brain and while it wasn’t treatable before when they told us three years ago, it’s certainly not treatable now, and that they thought he would die within weeks.
The worst part was, though, they also told this to him before they told it to Becky, so he had no one there to support him through the process or to give him other options. When I found this out, I became so angry with the doctors, because I focused on how he’d violated.
What we asked them to do and how the other doctor should have told his partner doctor not to tell him yet to allow us to talk to him to prepare him for the situation. That was so harsh. It was so unfair and and the meaning of it was that it was going to really harm him, and it all said he would give up hope and what I wanted to do was lash out, and fortunately, I didn’t lash out.
Instead, I started focused on what is happening to see. So what can I do so? I went to go, see him and talk to him and it was unbelievable. He looked like he just aged ten years in a day, because what happened is he had no future? There was no purpose in fighting the pain or trying to make things happen, or you know trying to tell stories do anything because, after all, you’re gonna die anyway soon, and that was kind of the way he was interpreting.
It sure enough. No matter what we said he just didn’t seem to respond. He just seemed to go into a total stupor and for the next day and a half or so he just sat in the corner. He really didn’t, say very much or communicate very much.
He just said not to bother with him that he was fine, but he didn’t open up emotionally. I just sat down with him and I I cried, and I told him how much I loved him and how much Becky loved him and how he needed to share with us what he was really feeling, because holding that back, wasn’t protecting us From pain we just felt separate from and then we could choose how what this was going to mean for his life that he, the doctors had told us three years ago that he was going to die with the matter of months.
Then – and here it was three years later, I said what, if you would have just sat around for three years in this little corner, doing nothing because you thought you’re gonna die any day or any week, and that’d.
Be pretty crazy on he started laughs. I said. Look at this. I said you can’t just sit off in this corner. Hey you might die tomorrow, you might die in six weeks. You might die in six months in my dad in six years you might die in ten or twenty years and really screw these people’s.
Brains up. I said it. Doesn’t matter. How long you’re gonna live. What’s gonna matter is how are you gonna live while you’re here, I said you & # 39. Ve lived an incredible life honey in World War. Two! You pilot, you know you’re, a businessman.
Now you’re, this guy, who’s touching this little town up in Colorado. Everybody knows you and cares about you and loves you because you love them. I said you braise. These incredible kids, I said you know if you’re gonna go, go out in style, go out because you decided to go out in an energy that you want to where you really enjoy your life.
Don’t just shut down, because somebody told you life’s over cuz, you buy into it don’t. Do it and he said well, you know Tony said the truth. Is I’m, not afraid to die, and he said everything you said is true.
He said you know. My life has been so rich. He says I feel, like you know, I & # 39. Ve lived, my purpose now. You know I’m, I look around and I see my kids and I see what they’re like as people, and I see what I’ve done and – and I think maybe it’s time.
For me to go now I said: listen if you’re deciding to do that because you really want to go. I said, then, you know I love you, I mean so you know I I’m sure I’m gonna cry and I’m, not gonna try and keep you here and not just because we love you.
I said, but at the same time don’t leave cuz somebody tells you it’s time to go, he said. Well, I don’t know I said well when it’s time to go. You’ll know. I said you can go consciously, you can decide when it’s time you don’t have to wait.
Til, the pain is so intense. You can’t stand it, but the same time, don’t go any quicker, then your meaning is done. I think right now you’re teaching your family a lot of new lessons. He said yeah that’s, probably true, I said so.
What do you want to do? How do you want to do things? I say: let’s, get your Fanny out of here. Let’s, get about. We have this great conversation and talked about all kinds of things. I will bore you the details, but I let him know that you ever have to worry about his daughter and and that she had become the kind of person he could always be proud of him.
It was amazing because the next three four five days he came to life all of a sudden there wasn’t purpose and things again, all of a sudden. He was alive. He’d, go out by the pool and tell stories and so forth, and he went over to the Polo Grounds and did all kinds of just really great things.
And then I went away for a seminar and I came back two days later and it was like he was gone. He could barely even talk. He’s having a difficult time holding himself up. He had have round-the-clock care for him pretty soon.
He wasn’t able to carry on a conversation. He would start talking gibberish and start seeing things that were invisible and point to them. We could tell the end was coming and, as the end star to come, there was more and more pain and tears, and we felt at all, and also at the same time, reminded ourselves that hey we’re.
Making this thing that it’s lost, because if our short-term thinking about this man in his body in his presence, but his life, will live on beyond his physical presence here and for him. What it probably means, his freedom finally be free of the painful bodies been in for so many years.
For him it’s, a chance to be with his wife, Becky’s, mom chance to be whether the loved ones there was another meaning that could give you joy. At the same time, you’re feeling pain, and so we try to focus on those.
Then one night I got home and all of a sudden I was called by the nurse. She told me that Becky’s. Dad had just passed away, um sure it was back in. We cried and we talked the same time. She felt incredible sense of peace for him.
It’s, amazing, how instantly how he felt could change just by changing what we focused on for more loss to his gained to the feeling of joy for him to be free. We couldn’t control the event, but we could certainly direct our own minds.
I thinking beyond ourselves, to something deeper to a deeper meaning in life. I got back yesterday from going with Becky up to this little town and ran Colorado. Well, dad. I’d, never been to before, but Becky had been there many times and I got a chance to see where Cecil lived and the impact he had.
He didn’t really want a funeral. He never liked people quote put on airs for anything. He was a simple man with simple values and a simple mission. When I got there, I looked around and he never explicitly said what the mission of his life was: the purpose of his life, but in a town of 14 people on we went out to this gravesite put his body into the ground and suddenly person after person Started showing up when you all 14 people be there, because we need the mall, they all loved him.
He was. The storyteller was the man who took an old car years ago and painted black and white and put a star on the side, but a dummy inside glasses made it look like a police car so that people came running through this little town, which consists about seven Or eight buildings that they might slow down, his house was called the rand Yacht Club because he invited everybody up for coffee every single morning at least 300 days a year figured how I could tell him a story and cheer him up.
He’s to rent a restaurant. There called the liars lair. The reason was because he had people he’d, tell people stories and eat all the wildest tales and get people to believe them. Sure enough, after about 10 or 15 years, began to realize that some of these things were stories, and they all laughed, as they told me stories about this incredible man who touched their lives when we got to the gravesite.
Not only did 14 people show up, but in this little town it’s. Four hours outside of Denver people came from all over people came from Wyoming people came from Denver pretty soon. There were a hundred people at a gravesite where there’s, not supposed to be a service to honor a man who touched their life.
So we said you know you’re, not having a formal service cuz that’s, not what he wanted. But before we put his body in the ground, is it anybody like to say anything and they all talked about how he touched them, how their life was greater because he was such a loving soul and his smile attached them that his stories had touched them.
But just his manner that he was a lover of people and animals that, because he’d, been in this town, their lives would never be the same. The people who’d come through the town just for a day, just as little kindness.
He was a man who said if you can’t, say something nice about something. Don’t say anything at all. He never said a negative word about anybody. In fact, one man, probably the most telling tale of this man’s life.
He said Cecil’s, a kind of guy, so two sat down one day with him and said: what are you doing about all those rodents that keep stealing all our animals? Are you poisoning him? Are you shooting him? You’re trapping him.
Are you kill him? What are you doing because they’re? Taking all my stuff in Cecil said, and I said I just plant twice as much. I thought what a life, what a man say his life was his mission. His mission was real, simple love.
People love animals, love beings, make the world a little bit better by just being nice. He lived a life of significance, one that had meaning he didn’t, go out and change everything on earth. He didn’t make a billion dollars.
He doesn’t. Have people writing him up everywhere, but he changed. People’s lives and he died in his sleep out of pain. The day he decided to go and he created in his family a greater sense of courage to look at life in a new way and a greater sense of dedication to give even more he added to our drive.
He had at our commitment to be givers in life, as he was to any soul who had the privilege of coming across his path. I hope it also makes you think about what’s most important in your life. I remember an interview with Michael Landon in Life Magazine when he knew he was gonna go.
He said quote, somebody should tell us right at the start of our lives that were dying and we might live life to the limit every minute of every day. Do what I say whatever you want to do, do it now? There are only so many tomorrow’s.
If you and I are going to live our lives fully, then maybe sometimes we can take the experiences of those around us and learn from them. We can learn that and all of our lives worry the warnings or examples.
Cecil’s. Life was an incredible example. He didn’t, think anything in life was insignificant, not a rodent, not a flower and not an animal, not a stranger. Passing through he lived by a philosophy that they also live in Fiji.
By the way Fiji was his favorite place. The last things he told me was the happiest time his life last few years were the trips he took to Fiji. I think it’s cuz. He felt like there. Everybody understood what he understood.
The life is meant to be a happy to be a joy, to appreciate the little things, as well as the big things, to appreciate one another to be givers to be lovers of life. I say to you that if you’re driven by anything other than your love, then your spirit and your desire to contribute your desire to grow and expand.
If you’re driven by their need to please others. If you’re driven by your fear, if you driven by your past, maybe it’s time to free yourself and the way to do it is decide, decide consciously what you want your life to be about decide consciously what’s, the purpose, your life, something simple, something you can live every single day.
You know. I think that when I look at people’s lives, and I see the people who are having so much difficulty. I think the number one reason why people fail to experience joy and life experience life as a win.
It’s, not because their life isn’t the wind, because the wind can be just reaching out and touching somebody around you. The wind can be just telling somebody that you love them. The wind can be taking care of your body, God’s temple the wind can be stopping and feeling grateful.
The wind could be anywhere you don’t, have to land on the moon to have the wind and you can enjoy landing on the moon too. How much better to enjoy the process? Because we’re going to spend most of our life in process towards the achievement of goals.
I’m, not saying don’t go do things and I’m, not saying don’t have grand schemes and dreams and not saying don’t. Do those because our lives are better because people dreamed huge dreams and they’ve made them happen, but I’m, saying don’t.
Do it at the expense of not appreciating what’s true along the way, and what see Souls remind us of us all those little things that are so so important and we’ve, always believed they’re important. I feel like we & # 39.
Ve always lived that they’re important, but I just want to redouble the effort part of my commitment to him and I saw and he has honor. I challenge you to do the same. I challenge you to hold yourself to a higher standard.
I challenge you to realize that you’re here for a purpose. There’s, something for you to do and be here for yourself and for others. You can’t just do for others not do for yourself, but you won’t be here, so this is really designed to get you to ask yourself: are you being efficient? Are you being effective in your life? There’s, a big difference.
If you’re being efficient, then what you’re doing. Is you’re doing things right? But if you’re being effective, you’re. Doing the right things, are you doing the things that are gonna, give you the most joy in your life? Why are you doing what you’re doing and where is it taking you? You know we all need to have what I call a code of conduct, a set of standards.
We hold ourselves to every day about how we’re going to be. Is people the kinds of states we’re gonna live in because it’s out of those states that we affect everyone around us just stop and think about what’s most important, think about why you’re here: what’s? The purpose, your life step out of the moment and into eternity think about what’s eternal when you’re feeling insecure start to realize.
There is something inside of you. That is never-ending, that there’s, something inside of you that is unchangeable and that’s, the part of you. That knows what is right, what to do and why you’re here, so you know it may sound metaphysical and may sound religious or spiritual call it whatever you want, but know that the bottom line is that you are here for a reason and That it’s, a special reason that only you know – and it may be – that you haven’t found it because you’re.
Looking for something huge, and it may be that you’re living it right. Now you’re, just not appreciating your purpose, maybe what you’re doing right now. Is your life purpose? This thing that you detest, most or maybe what it is doing is giving you the challenge to really discover something within yourself that allow you to give and be more coz.
Life is about two things being and doing. How are you gonna be as a human being, I mean. Ultimately, our destiny is: who do we become as people? And what do you do? What do you contribute that’s? What it’s about that’s? What gives us a sense of fulfillment a life of significance is one of growth and contribution it’s.
One. You decide what your life’s about simply, are you? What are you here for you here to live, to learn to grow? To share to love what are you here for I’m asking these questions. I’m, hoping you’re thinking, not just listening to me.
What is the special plan for you? You’ve got to discover the purpose, your life. There is a plan. There is something here for you that’s different than anybody else in the world, and you’ve got to discover what it is, and the best way to discover is just trust, your instinct and say what is, if it was simple, Was clear and I was living your day – why am i year cuz? If you never discover your purpose? How can you ever win the game of life? How can you really enjoy it thoroughly? I look around at people.
So often they’re so unhappy, and I think the reason is that they don’t ever win the game of life. It’s, a game they feel like they can’t win like they’re, always losing, and the reason number one is. I think there’s, seven reasons I’ll.
Give you seven. I’ve jotted some down here, I think number one is, I think most people never win the game of life. I never feel fulfilled. I never feel joy because they don’t know the purpose of the game.
If you don’t know the purpose of the game, what’s, your chances of ever winning? I’ve ever get in ring the bell feel that sense of fulfillment or joy or passion or love or whatever it is that you truly want at the deepest level, see if you don’t know the purpose.
The game you don’t know. The goal is pretty hard to set up your game to win isn’t it pretty soon. You start pursuing things that don’t, give you fulfillment, live in somebody else’s, life other than your own.
You got ta know what are you doing it all for what do you really want when I ask most people this question? What do you want? They give me answers like well, I know what I go on. I don’t want to live this way anymore.
I don’t want to feel like hell anymore, that’s, not gonna give. You what you want, what do you really well, I want to finally be financially secure, so I can retire great. You know. Statistics about retirement, actuaries is statistics from insurance.
Companies show the three years after a man retires. Specifically, I’m using men. Guess what happens he dies to retire is to die and for some people this is like their major aim. Think about it. Retirement is gonna make you happy, you got ta have a purpose.
You got to know what it is.