You know, doesn’t matter. What you get doesn’t matter, whether it be money or opportunity. All those things might excite you for the moment. You know even a relationship as magnificent. It may be might be exciting for a while, but if you don & # 39, t keep growing that relationship.
Isn’t going to stay exciting, so the secret to real happiness is progress, progress equals happiness and if we can make progress on a regular basis, we feel alive and that’s. Why? At the beginning of the year we get this thing like okay, I can have this fresh start.
I could really do what my soul desires. I could expand, I could grow, I could improve, I could change or maybe better than change. I could progress, see think about that progress as an aliveness to a governor.
You have to work at changing people say all the time that allow I’m working on changing don & # 39. T worry about it. To work on. Changing change is automatic. Your body is going to change whether you want it or not, as the years go by, but no matter how hard you work there’s going to be some changes going on there.
The economy is going to change, no matter what you want it to do. The weather is going to change. Relationships are going to change. Everything in life is always changing. We have to work on change, change is automatic, but progress is not so if you want to make real progress and you really got to look at your life in a different way, you got to say I got to take control of this process and not just Hope that’s, going to work out like people do who make a resolution because really isn’t what they’re really doing at the beginning of the year.
They’re, saying well here’s, my resolutions for the year, and they really basically tell you their wishes. It’s, their wish list. It’s, what they hope it all comes together and then they call it a resolution, but they don’t know what a resolution is when you resolve something to have.
A resolution is to resolve it when you resolve. This is how it’s, going to be that’s when you cut off any possibility, except the thing you’ve committed to it’s like the old adage. If you want to take the island, you burn the boats, because when you burn those boats there’s, no going back, you’re, going to find a way to make things work and most people they’re, stating what They hope will come together and, if happened, and they’re disappointed, but they’re, not too disappointed cuz.
They’re, not too vested. What does it take to successfully create a lasting change in your life? To not only have a new year’s resolution you follow through on, but really have a lasting change. Well, the first step for lasting change is very much like making a new year’s resolution.
Fundamentally it’s. The same the first step is you got to have a vision, a vision for what it is. You really truly want not what you think you want or what you should have. I mean what are most people’s New Year’s resolutions I’m going to stop eating sugar.
You know I’m gonna stop smoking. I’m, going to lose 10 pounds problem with that. Is it’s, not very inspiring for most people? You know it’s, not telling you what you’re, going to get it’s. Only what you’re, not going to do it’s kind of hard to have you move forward with that.
A vision is about what you’re here, to create a vision that really works is one that excites you. If you say well, my you know my resolution, my goal, my help come for this month this week this year is to lose X number of pounds that’s, okay, but it’s, not very compelling.
It has to be a compelling vision that have something has the power to pull you not something you have to push yourself to do. Well, they’re, two different kinds of motivation. Push requires, willpower and willpower never lacks.
What will last is pull having something so exciting so attractive, so something to desire so much that you have a hard time going to sleep at night. You get so up early in the morning to a rocket and take it to the next level.
That’s. What you’re, looking to create that isn’t easy to get, but one of the reasons we do seminars and events um saying you know: why do that? Why isn’t? Why not just read a book or something is because when you give it an environment where you were people that are being split in a peak state like when you’re going to a sporting event, if you watch the sporting event at home, it Might have a certain level of excitement, but when you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people, suddenly it has a whole different level of intensity.
When we feel that, in the bottom line of our follow-through comes down to our emotional intensity in a different state of mind, you’re, going to come up with a much better and more exciting vision than if you’re sitting.
The couch going okay, one of my new resolutions for this year and you’re doing it the morning after the new year started, and you’re. A little inebriated and I put games on the background – probably not going to have the power of focus they’re.
Probably not gonna have a power, the energy to create something that’s, going to pull you for this year and you got to do that. So it & # 39. S got to be a vision that’s, compelling something that you know it’s, going to be a gift to make sure that it happens, and also along with that compelling vision.
You got to have strong enough reasons that you’re going to follow through when the going gets. Tough, that’s, one of the biggest things missing for most people. They say this is what I want to do not very exciting.
It’s, not very compelling, but most importantly, they don’t, have strong enough reasons to push themselves through what’s, going to be necessary to get that dream to get that goal when the inevitable challenges come up? When you’re starving hungry and you’re trying to go on a diet right when you got no time and you’re stressed out, you haven’t worked out still that’s.
What you’re supposed to do when the economy gets tight and what you thought you’re going to do it. Doesn’t work, and so you give up on the goal instead of finding another way to get there. You don’t, let the fear take you over.
If you & # 39, ve got strong enough reasons. Those reasons can be positive or those reasons can also be negative. It can be if I don’t. Do this. It’s going to cost me, and if I do to this, this is what I’m going to gain.
In my life reasons. Come first answers come second. If you & # 39, ve got a compelling vision and you got strong enough reasons that will push you through the tough times you’re, going to do things. Other people don’t do instead of collapsing.
Even if you get off target you won’t go! Oh, I blew it. You’ll, get right back on target, make the change make things happen, and I know you & # 39. Ve done this in many areas. Your life just think about it again, I’m, not teaching you something really new here today.
I just want to remind you what your soul knows. You got a change, you got to be proved and you & # 39. Ve got to go through a simple process fundamentally to make that progress first step vision is compelling second step, make sure that they’re strong enough fries with the bottle trip third step, you got to review it and feel it every day.
I mean anything if you ever have this happen in your life. Has there been anything in your life that you’ve ever wanted so badly? You were so desirous of it. Yet such a hunger for it. Now you couldn’t.
Stop thinking about it could then a career move could have been when you’re, a kid a car, it could have been a relationship, it could have been anything, but you were obsessed you wanted to make this happen.
You wanted to track this to your life. You want to you just wanted something and you didn’t even know how to get it, but it was so compelling to you kept thinking about it every day and visioning, imagining it feeling it and then stuff happened and suddenly you started attract people Or situations to your life, and it just came together like you, didn’t even have a total plan.
It was just that it was so part of your focus with so much intensity and emotion, so often that it sensitize you to notice anything that could get you there. There’s, a part of your brain called the reticular activating system.
For short, we call it the RAS that part of your brain determines what you notice in the world and it’s really important, because when you set a goal, when you get really clear in a vision, they’re strong enough reasons And you review it enough, it becomes a part of you that part of your brain says anything that relates to this.
I need to notice. Why did you ever buy a certain kind of car or maybe a certain outfit, and suddenly you see that car everywhere? Those outfits everywhere, you know the cars were always around, but why do you see it now, as your Ras? No, this is important.
This was part of my world map. Similarly, when you really get clear and it’s compelling and you’re, reviewing it every day that strong reasons you’re, viewing it every day and you’re feeling it. The brain becomes incredibly acute at noticing anything to get you to move forward, and so that’s, the power of this.
So you know what do people do with New Year’s resolution? They come up with something they kind of want. It’s, not a compelling vision. They don’t really have strong enough reasons, and they never review it again until they notice that they broke what they said.
They really want to have make happen because they didn & # 39. T really resolve you resolve. You got the vision, it’s, compelling review it daily and you feel it you envision it and you experience it simple as it sounds now.
Ultimately, what is this really about? Ultimately, if you’re, going to have lasting change in anything, you’re, really talking about just raising your standards, I mean, I always tell people if you want to know how to change your life that give it to you.
In three words boring as it sounds, raise your standards. What does that mean? Corny, as it sounds, raise your standards? Well, thank you for the breakthrough. Thought Tony. I’m glad I wasted my time watching the little email with you but think about it.
Lasting change is different than a goal. You don’t, always get your goals, but you always get your standards. Maybe they’ll help. You is to think about it. This way, I try to explain standards to people with a different set of words.
Think of it as everybody in life they’re months. They don’t, get their right, think about it. Most people of a list of ships don’t. They don’t gentlest of the shoulds things you should do you should follow through on I I should lose some weight.
I should work out more. I should make more calls. I should respond more rapidly to my email. Whatever you know, I should get into the office earlier. I should be, you know more confident. Whatever your should list is people love to have their should list Nanette, but it’s kind of like New Year’s resolutions.
If it does it’s really exciting, but if it doesn’t, which is most the time if a little disappointing, but you kind of know it’s not going to happen. But when you decide something as a must for you an absolute must when you cop any possible, you say I’m, going to find a way.
I’m, going to make the way human beings when they resolve things, and they make a real resolution inside themselves, which is they raise the standard they make it a must they find the way think about in your own life happens.
You had some area of your life where you raise your standard. Your life has never been the same. Maybe at one time you like you, use smoke cigarettes or you did something and you did it for years and you kept trying to change it, trying to change it and kept telling yourself.
I should and then one day something happened, something just clicked you over. Something took you over that kind of tipping point and inside yourself you said no more. It was a very, very different experience.
Wasn’t, it something excited, you shifted and what was a should became a must and you’ve, never gone back. Is there an area like that in your life? You could think of again Jay ever smoked cigarettes.
Did you ever eat a certain way drink, a certain form of alcohol and then finally saying no more and you just don’t, go back and notice this it doesn’t really take any willpower no morning because somewhere when we make This click we make something a must.
We attach ourselves to it. It becomes part of our identity. One thing I’ve learned in the last gosh 33 years of working on people. From now over 100 countries, four million people is human beings absolutely follow through on who they believe are, and you say said to me: well, I’m, really going to work hard to stop smoking, but you know I’ve been a Smoker my whole life and I’m.
You know I am a smoker. I know your days are numbered. You’re, going to be back smoking cigarettes again because we all act consistent with who we believe we are. I tell people the strongest force in the whole human personality.
Is this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves? If you define yourself as somebody who is really conservative, you’re, not going to be crazy and act nuts. Unless you’re, really drunk or something, and then you can say it’s, the alcohol, when it really does you finally getting permission to be yourself, the alcohol is your excuse.
If you’re, a really crazy person, you act crazy, outrageous, playful! You don’t act; conservative because it’s, not who you are very often people say well, I can’t. Do that. I’m, not that kind of person and I always say to people really.
When did you define yourself, I mean really how many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn’t do in your life? How many years ago, most people if they really look at how to live in your life today, it’s based on a set of standards, a set of beliefs that they made choices about 10, 20, 30 or more years ago I mean very often We made decisions in our youth or very young about what to believe about what we were capable of about who we are as a person, and that becomes the glass ceiling.
If you will that controls us there’s a according metaphor, but it’s. True, I remember one time I was with my family at the circus and there’s, a person there and they had this big giant elephant. And you look at this elephant and they take this little rope put around that opens neck and they dropped a stake into the ground, and I mean you look at this.
You know that elephant could rip down the entire tent with almost no effort, and yet the elephant doesn’t struggle. Doesn’t, try. Why could the elephants conditioned and they take that elephant condition? The elephant when it’s? A baby elephant that’s, how they trainable when it’s, a little bitty elephant, it doesn’t have a power, yet they put a big rope around it and they drive this huge stake in the ground.
The elephant fights and fights and fights, and one day finally, that open decides – I’m, not capable pulling this out and once that becomes the definition of an identity of any one elephants. In this case, they don’t even try anymore.
It’s, just who I, that’s, how it is that’s just the way it is in my life. I’d, like to ask you to take a look at any place. You’ve, got a limitation. Ask yourself. When did I decide to accept that limitation and you may not even see it as a limitation? You might see there just that’s, who I am, but so often our lives.
We’ve, adapted to be a certain way so that we don’t fail or so that people will like us or respect us, but it’s, not necessarily who we are. Joy comes when you’re spontaneous it’s, really hard to be truly happy when you’re, not being yourself, and most of us have no clue who we are, and so a big part of my work, you’ve ever been to an event.
You know is to get people abusing spontaneously without thinking, because that’s when the real you shows up that’s when the energy comes alive, and when you do that, when you start to connect your true nature, suddenly there’s energy available for you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life, that’s.
What this is really all about, and when I talk about standards, when I talk about you know, shoulds versus must think about your own life. I know there have been areas in your life where some point in time.
You just shift it and you raise the standard in your life change because whatever people have their identity attached to they live, we live, who we believe we are, that’s. Just how it works it’s, just kind of like I give an example.
Look at your physical body. Your physical body today is an absolute reflection of only one thing: not your goals, not your desires, but your standards, the identity you have for yourself. If your standard is you’re, an athlete, then there’s, a certain amount of strength, a muscle tone and energy, that’s available in your body on a regular basis, because that’s, who you are, If you do whatever is necessary to maintain that identity, again the strongest force and the human personality, this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves, because if you don’t know who you are, you would not act once you lock in on That identity, your brain, finds a way to keep you that, if you say you know, then I’m overweight.
I’ve, always been overweight. I’m big-boned and that’s. The story you’ve got, and you’re, going to always find a way to get back there. That’s. You’re, settling point that’s; your identity, that’s. Where things lock in, if you see somebody who’s a really great shape, you ask him: you work, he’ll.
You know the answer. Yes, how often and okay three times four times five times a week, whatever into seven our last people who here works out at least five days a week and I’m stand-up and you look around that room and you know that they work out.
Five times a week, as you can see their body, you don’t just get a result without some kind of action, without some form of ritual ritual, meaning actions. You do consistently now. Do you think it those people that are out there working out five days a week? Do they have more time than you do, or I have for anybody else? Of course not? Is it a wife, less busy, of course not it’s.
Just a must for them, they must work out that way and they’ve made that turn their life change. So I’m, not saying you have to work outside days a week I’m, just saying whatever you really want, once don’t get met consistently, standards do whatever you identify.
This is who I am, and so it’s, not so much about changing your identity as there’s expanding it. You know deciding that you know instead of your goals, to lose ten pounds, which is not compelling what if your vision was to get back to my fighting weight.
You know just this year this month. This makes 90 days I’m, going to transform my body. I’m, going to take on a new challenge. I’m, going to find some technique or strategy there’s, a million of them.
They can reframe myself, where I want to feel younger, stronger, more vibrant than ever before. Here’s, my reasons, because I want the energy to really make my life work because it’s tough out there, and I want to be stronger than I’ve ever been before home.
I go in front of mirror. If I’m naked, not you know want to laugh. I will look there and take a good look and go yeah. I’m, proud of whatever I see there, whatever it takes something’s going to make. You laugh smile, something’s, going to tease yourself, but something’s going to move you to another level.
If you identify yourself in a new way – and you own that every day and that becomes the staredown, you live, you & # 39. Ll find the way to make that standard. Real money is the same way. Think about it.
Doesn’t matter. What’s happening quote-unquote in the marketplace? People that make money find a way to make money. No matter what don’t, they I mean most people’s. Standard is to pay their bills, so that’s.
What most people find a way to do? Evil neck and times get tough, most people that’s, their absolute standard. They find what some people’s standard is pay their bills and, most of the time it’s. The most the time they do, some people standard is not just to pay their bills, but to take care of your family and maybe even some of their friends, and they find a way.
In fact, you know some people may be in a family where they don’t have enough money, you barely have money, pay their bills, they work for guts out and then somebody, their mother, the father somebody else.
Their sister gets ill and there’s, not enough money to take care of it. Nobody else has money, the family, they don’t either, but they find a way to get that money to take care of their mother or father.
Don’t they and their bills. They never could do it before why the situation made them raise their own standard and not everybody does that somebody else in the family might have money and still not take care of their mother.
It all comes down to the inner game. My friends, changing your life is a change in the inner game, the outside world. You can’t control, but you have absolute control over this one. If you learn the dynamics of what shapes you, an identity is one of those simple, clear, fundamental basics that if you start to shift it, everything else will shift in your life as well.
Some people, by the way, have to have more than enough money to do. What they want when they want, where they want with whomever they want, contribute the way they want. If that’s, their muscly find a way.
I know that sounds overly simplistic, but it’s. True now somebody once said you can take all the money in the world out of the hands of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful given to other people it wouldn’t.
Take you long. Those people will have it back in their hands. It’s, not because they’re manipular. It’s because they have a standard. So I’m going into it. Don’t get me wrong, but they got a standard of what they’re, going to find a way to make happen.
I’m. Just simply saying to you. Take those three magic words and live them raise your standard. If you really want to do it, and I’ll, take the most important secret. Have you ever done this? Have you ever told yourself you’re, raising your saying, okay, I’m going to go.
Make this happen. I’m going to go. Make this much money. I’m, going to transform my kids. I’m, going to create the ultimate relationship of my life. I’m, going to transform my body whatever it is, and then you don’t, have strong enough reasons and you know a little use it.
You don’t, follow through it’s, because you didn’t back up your standards with what makes those standards real and that’s. Rituals rituals are the power is whenever we do. Our robbins results. Coaching and we did Robbins equals results way.
We get results with people, it’s. The same way, if you listen to my ultimate edge program, are back in the old days, personal power or if you went to one of my seminars, you know what I do is I take these huge challenges you got and we break them down into little bite-sized Steps little things you do each day that after you do them, you get so much momentum that it’s, easy to succeed.
You’re, not overwhelmed. You have these victory day after day after day and little things. If you’d want to ultimate edge, I’m sure you learn about the hour of power or the 15 minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive, where you literally just condition your body and emotion.
With a couple of the rituals, so it doesn’t matter. What’s going on in your world? You feel that strength and it’s, not fake. It’s, not some pump up. It’s coming from inside you and it works. Rituals define us see all the results in your life are coming from your rituals.
They start with a standard and then have rituals that follow it up. Like, for example, if you are where you want to be physically, you have very different rituals, and if you’re, not where you want to be physically, you’re overweight.
You and I both know, you got a different ritual than if you’re physically, fit completely different. You get up in the morning. What’s? The first thing you do. If you’re fit your shoes. Are there you roll over the minute, how you feel you put on the shoes, you lace and you start walking or whatever that ritual is.
If you’re overweight, you roll over and you have a very different ritual. You might roll over several times to turn the alarm clock off. You go in and get your mocha mocha whatever you know, special coffee, you stop by at Starbucks or in the case maybe have your nice sugar muffin.
They’re supposed to be really nice for you, whatever you do it’s, a different ritual. If you have a great passionate relationship, you have very different rituals and how you come home than if you have a lousy relationship become home, and the first thing you do is you’re tweeting somebody or you’re emailing or flipping On the news or you, don’t even come home, and what are the rituals whenever I study people that are successful while I look for is what’s, the standard they hold himself to and then what are all those little ritual That up because think about it.
Success and failure are not giant events. They don’t just show up you don’t just suddenly become successful or suddenly have this cataclysmic event. That makes you fail. They look that way, but failure comes from all the little things it’s.
Failure to make the call it’s stale! You’re to check the books, it’s. Failure to say I’m. Sorry, if still here, to push yourself to do things physically, that you don’t want to do and all those little failures day after day, come together until one day some cataclysmic event happens.
You blame that that event happened because you missed all the little stuff Geary’s me and success by the way is not some overnight event. It’s. All these little things. Success is having a vision. Success is making it compelling.
Success. Is really seeing and feeling it every day it was strong enough for reasons success. He is feeling the sense that I’m here to grow, and I’m here to give something to the world more than just myself.
Success is caring about other people. Success is calling and saying I love you in the middle the day for no damn reason or sending a note that will change your relationship, how to ritual of something funny playful or a surprise.
You do how many relationships are dead today, because they have no surprise rituals anymore. You need to have some rituals and cool things. You do that nobody else. Does they give you a better life than anybody else? Has all the little stuff that’s? Where success comes from in business, it comes from delivering more than anybody.
Could imagine all those little things that appeal to wow that’s? Who I want to do business with it’s, true with any area of your life? So if you look at somebody’s really successful, you think wow. I mean they’re, so amazing they’re, such a genius.
You got to dig underneath you got to remember something. People are rewarded in public for what they’ve practiced for years in private myself and my business people say: how do you get up and speaking of no notes and you go for three days and nights and the room is like it is wired.
It’s, incredible it’s like a rock concert. How do you do that? How do you have that confidence call? And you know it’s, not confident that’s experienced now, but I did so much behind the scenes and I still do to make things right.
I mean how many people would know that, since the time I was 17 years old before a walk-on in stage school due to this day, wouldn’t need to do it, but I still do it. I never walk out there without being in an absolute peak state of mind.
You know there days my back is hurting. My throat was hurting, or I may have had a challenger. My father passed away and I & # 39. Ve still got to deliver for these people, because my standard is give my all every time everything has to be better talk to anybody has been to events for five ten years.
Some of our trainers – and I’ll, say I don’t know he does it. He’s, always find the way to make it better. That’s, not an ego thing that’s. A standard in me I have to find the way, and my ritual, though, is I prepare.
I think I gather new information. I figure out how to put something across better. What do people need? I spend time with our customers. I see what’s going on and before I get on stage each time and it’s, a ritual to put myself in a state of mind, and I did it starting like seventeen years old, I started doing it.
I now command my subconscious mind, and I say this out loud several times this little phrase: data phrases as an incantation to kind of condition my mind and body – and I say I now command my subconscious – mind to direct me and helping as many people as possible.
Today I give me the strength and the emotion and the humor and the brevity whatever it takes to show this person helped this person change their life. Now I started that with a person when I work with people one on one.
I would do that for 45 minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and coach somebody for the first time now I don’t say that person. I did these people and I can go out in the room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50 hours and I do it every time I come back on stage it’s, a ritual, a ritual to go into peak stay Peaks.
They don’t just show up it’ll interrupt you great ideas. Only interrupt you got to pursue them. I talked to Michael Jordan. I’ll, never forget dad the peak of his career and got to watch his final game.
So I’m backstage and spend some time with them and there’s pretty exciting time, your famous basketball player and I think that ever lived and haven’t lived and I asked them. I said you know what sets you apart Michael, you know, what is it and is it god-given talent ability, skill? What is it you tell me you know, so I can shoot you straight.
You know it’s. Not you know me trying to act. Humble he goes. I have a lot of town a lot of god-given talent, lot of skill. I’ve, worked really hard, but he said really it’s. My standards is it every day I demand more for myself than anybody could humanly expect.
I’m, not competing with somebody up. I’m competing with well, I’m, capable of hmm magic formula because most of us lower our standards. Why? Because who you spend time with my friends would even come one of the biggest reasons I started go to seminars when I’m 17? Is I had nobody around me is a great robot.
I can read about somebody but being around people being in that environment is very different finally way to go to work with someone who lived that standard life is very different, get around people with low standards, and you compete with it.
You don’t need to compete with it. It’s like okay. I mean number Jerry Springer. I know if he’s still in the air, but I never used to get people on the show. I thought where would he find these people and why would people watch okay, why they watch? They watch these people to my life, so pretty darn, good career, that person rid of them you don’t have to change your life.
All you have to do is find somebody with a lower standard. You’ll feel good about yourself, but if you feel that good feeling it’s, an illusion, the only thing that’s going to make you happy my friend and this year, any other is to step up it’s to raise the standard is to discover what you’re, capable of and feel that incredible power pushing through whatever is holding you back and get to the other side of more of your true self.
That’s. What this game is all about and look at the best of the world anything Tiger Woods. What’s? What’s, his vision to win golf tournaments? No to be the best that ever lived, that’s, his goal, that’s, his it! But here’s.
What’s interesting? He backs it up with rituals. If you just have a vision and you don’t know the rituals stop lying to yourself. His rituals. Are you started doing things nobody did before he was there lifting weights golfers lifting weights no way he went out and he changed his swing when he was the best in the world, because he realized already be the best that ever lived.
He took enough to change a swing if you don’t think my golf, you don’t change your swing when you’re the best and he went and retrained himself because he has different rituals and other golfers. Now many people are modeling his rituals to get better it’s.
Amazing. You know you look at somebody like Michael Phelps, 2008, swimmer, 1, 7, only 2 people, I think in history. If I remember correctly that I’ve, gotten seven gold medals in one session and here’s, a guy, he’s, got number six centers don’t.
He’s exhausted and he’s going in for that final swim, I’m, you remember, and how does the guy win by one hundredths of a second? Do you think that was some massive skill that got him over the top or was it a standard that says this is who I am? I am the champion and no one is taking us from me and somehow in those final milliseconds hundredths of a second and pushed himself just beyond this competitor, but you know how about Michael Phelps, what allowed him to be able to push beyond that moment? It just rituals go steady, the guy most people who swim have these unbelievable workouts.
He does two and three of those workout sessions a day. All the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane. You’re over trained. You can’t, do that it’s, not physically possible, but he had a standard and the rituals to back it up.
So here’s. My final message to you because I’ve, gotten carried away. I was gonna, send you like a five-minute message, but you can see there’s no script here it’s. Just me all go crazy with you, but I want to really see you get what you want this year.
Don’t, let this year be like last and if last year was great, still don’t. Let it be that way raise the standard. Your life is perfect and extraordinary. You darn well know you’re, not going to be happy unless you keep making about it.
That’s. What makes us feel alive it’s, not what we get to make us happy it’s who we become and what we’re able to give, because we become more. That sense of contribution is what creates our deepest meaning.
So here’s, my assignment for, if you want one, if you want to go from conversation to some action, your simple thing to do what scenario your life right now that you really want improve? What’s, an area that’s important to improve if your body is great? How about your career career is great about your relationship, implement one especially or your kids or your relationship with your Creator, spiritual side of your life, or is it your finances figure an area that really matters decide on that area? Number one write down what your life is like in that area right now, specifically as possible, so you might say: well I’m thirteen point.
Five pounds: overweight: you, whatever the weight, is whether the situation is, or my body snapped like this or wake up exhausted in the morning, and you write the truth of where you are right now, so you’re real, clear or I’M not in a relationship.
I say I want a relationship, but I I’m. Not in one I don’t seem to find them all. The good ones seem to be gone. Is my Balu? You know – and I really do want one, but I don’t. Have it whatever your definition.
I’m in a relationship and god I wish I wasn’t in a relationship. I’m planning, my escape wherever you are, or I have a wonderful relationship. We love each other, but there just isn’t enough passion. Just like the truth of where you are the area, you want to change, but right how it is, and then the second step is is we are really honest with yourself.
What are the rituals that have put me there, because whatever results, you’re? Getting even if you don’t like the results, there are some rituals that are keeping you in that place. There are some rituals of what you eat, or don’t eat how you move or don’t move how you sleep with.
Hopefully there’s, some rituals and the lack of variety or spice or energy, or focus in an area there’s, something you’re doing and it’s. Usually not one thing: it’s. A bunch of little things they kind of do consistently whenever you think about getting in a relationship whatever you think about working out, whatever you think about money and get yourself in a state of overwhelm, you start thinking all the things you can’t Control just write down all the rituals you have and then here’s, the third step.
What do you want? What’s, your vision and be really specific? I want to be my fighting weight. I want to be the strongest I’ve ever felt. I want to be. I’m, going to turn my whatever it is, be specific and then last step number four: what are the rituals that’ll? Get you there? What would you need you differently into mourning? If you’re, going to be that kind of energy that kind of strength? How would you have to happen? Would you work out what days would you work out what time a ritual something you do consistently? Usually, at a specific time, so it becomes automatic.
Let me tell you something: willpower, doesn’t last, but rituals can last a lifetime. I bet you have some rituals in your life right now. You’ve been doing for years, even though some of them don’t serve you.
I’m, just saying wake yourself up make. If you want a new year and a new life, you don’t need to start in January. First start today start with this little video and just begin to see what happens and see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals don’t.
Do them all just do two or three new things, and you know what happens you’ll get momentum, because once you discipline yourself in one area life, you feel yourself doing in other areas as well. I always say something that my original teacher taught me.
I always remind people there’s, always two pains in life. There’s at the pain of discipline or as the pain of regret and discipline, weighs ounces, as my friend Jim Rohn taught me regret, weighs tons you don’t have regret so right now.
What do you want to change? What’s? It really like what are the rituals that got you there that will take a little homework if you’re, not sure, ask the people around you, they & # 39. Ll. Tell you what your rituals are.
What do I really want in depth where the rituals will get me there and then get yourself to start a few? Those actions and lock them in place, but I can help you in any way. We’re here as a company to support you come and have an event with us, come to unleash the power within or master university or get a coach.
You can get a free coaching session if you call our company and click on something on this. We & # 39. Ll, probably have something on here: get a product or don’t. Do anything with us would do something with somebody starting with you.
If you make the change in yourself, you’re, going to be proud this year and no amount of money or accolades from other people can mirror the feeling of being proud of knowing you taking back control of your life or you taking a great Life to another level, because once you do that, you have something you can give other people, would it be your kids or your friends or your family and ultimate that’s? Why it’s about so thanks for listening.
I know how long I went to here, but I hope this has been helpful for you. I just thought the new year and I want people to be able to truly create a new life and till I see again, probably substitute or get the chance to meet.
You live strong and with live with passion, and of course, god bless to you. Happy new. You [, Music, ]